A Revelation

A Revelation

As a Success Coach and Mammographer I see day in and day out how women around the ages 40-50 go through what I call the “Now What” Syndrome. We feel tired and down. We constantly look for things to do or to take care of. We look around at the world wondering why we feel so bad.

This morning, while sitting and planning out my day I realized that I was in the middle of the “Now What” Syndrome. I was making list after list of the things I needed to be doing for everyone else. I was timing out eye appointments, calls with clients, figuring out when to set up calls with mentors for my children, making grocery list…..and it went on and on.

I stopped for a moment when I felt the emotion of anxiety creep up. I thought to myself, now why on earth do I feel anxious?

And then it came to me. I had a revelation. It came to me because I thought about what I had taught one of my clients last night. I sat there and shook my head. The anxiety started to go away.

What I realized was that through out my own life I have been doing for others. Always always putting everyone else first. It’s a wonderful thing to think of everyone around you and how you can help their lives be better but the one thing that many people including myself forget is that we have to put ourselves first.

Many women and perhaps men as well go through this now what syndrome feeling like they are on the bottom of everyone else’s totem pole. They feel they get thought of last. They feel that they are not good enough because those around them that they always put first never think of them first.

If you find yourself feeling like this….ask yourself….Why do I feel that everyone else puts me last…and if they really do….why?

Well I asked myself that same question. The answer I came up with is because I showed them how to do that. I showed them that I will always be last because they come first in my life. After all, I taught my children and anyone that got to know me over the years that my feelings didnt matter because theirs came first, that my health didnt matter because theirs came first, that my overdrafted bank account didnt matter because…low and behold ….everyone else had to come first.

What is the moral to this so true story……?

The moral is that in order to be this woman who takes care of the world, I must take care of me first. The same goes for all of you. If you are the person that has taken on the task as “warrior” or “keeper of the tribe” like I have then the most important person you have to take care of is yourself. Without you….who will take care of them?

TO YOUR SUCCESS!!

Melanie Eatherton
Success Coach, Speaker,
Author, Mom
LOA Diva, Peacemaker
Love Creator, Bad Image Annihilator

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